Do You Really Believe That?

My husband’s daughter, who lives in the States, is an indigo through and through. She’s also a true skeptic. Near the end of their most recent telephone call, Benjamin reported to me later, she asked, “Does Carolyn really believe that she talks to dead people?”

“Yes,” he answered, and went on to explain how many times he has seen me work at public message events (which I so miss doing in these pandemic times!) and at Spiritualist services via Zoom. He described how I get information like the spirit’s name and information that only the message receiver knows about.

(I should point out that my husband’s daughter is well aware of the work I do and is very accepting of it. She was even “best woman” at our marriage. But, as I said, an indigo is an indigo…)

Benjamin then told her that he strongly believes in the work, and even has given messages at Spiritualist churches and at The Stump in Lily Dale. “I also believe in Spiritualism,” he continued, “because I’ve seen too much that I can’t logically explain.”

“That’s for sure,” she said. “There’s a lot of crazy stuff in the world.” (I’ve politely used “stuff” in place of another word she used.)

“For example, do you know I saw my father the day he was buried?” he told her. “After the service, my mother and my siblings went back to my mother’s house for lunch. We were preparing sandwiches in the kitchen, and in the corner of my eye, I saw him walk past the kitchen and down the hall to my parents’ bedroom.”

She was quiet for a moment, then said, “Yeah, my mother said she saw her father walking around on the day he was buried.”

Benjamin gave a few instances of what happened when he gave messages, and his daughter listened quietly. Finally, she just said with a sigh, “Well, I just don’t know.” Spoken like a true skeptic.

They talked a few minutes more about this and that, then wished each other love and success before ending the call. Afterward, my husband told me about the call and we shared a good laugh.

“When my daughter was younger – maybe five years old or so,” he remembered, “she said something interesting right out of the blue. We were driving to go see a movie and she said, ‘Y’know, sometimes I imagine myself in a house by the ocean, and I’m looking out over the water, because I’m waiting for a boat to return with my husband. It’s interesting.’”

He prompted his daughter to say more, but she was done with that topic. “I wondered if she might be flashing back to a past-life moment,” he said. “As she grew up, I encouraged her spirituality and creativity, and never disagreed with anything she said on the subject. Years later, as one of her Christmas presents, I bought her a set of tarot cards based on the wise woman archetype.” He laughed. “I think it’s collecting dust somewhere.”

Which just goes to show: You can lead an indigo to water, but you can’t make her drink – even if her lips are parched. And I know Benjamin will always encourage her to ask questions and to think creatively.

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