Toronto Psychic Medium Carolyn Molnar answers the question, "Where have you been educated and where have you worked"?
Tell Your Stories
- Published on Monday, 20 December 2010 10:42
Mischka became a little more clear, and she asked me to wish her granddaughter a Merry Christmas. Then, Mischka’s message was simple and elegant.
“She’s saying, ‘Remember your stories,’” I told Bess. “She wants you to have a good time with your family, and don’t sit in the corner all by yourself. People like to be with you, and they like to hear your stories. And remember that your family is filled with stories.”
Afterward, I talked with Bess, who told me the message had been very meaningful. I thanked her for her comments and wished her well – and ten minutes later forgot what it was exactly that I said to Bess when I was bringing through her grandmother. That usually happens, because I let spirit talk through me. I’m the messenger, not the message sender.
However, occasionally my memory gets a jog. The day after giving the message during the holiday service, I began reading the book Kitchen Table Wisdom by Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. Dr. Remen uses a mind/body approach to health and healing when she treats people with life-threatening illnesses, and her book is an enlightening and very moving collection of stories from her life as a doctor.
Dr. Remen says that she became a better doctor when she began listening to her patients’ stories. They talked of their love and devotion, and finding strength within themselves to cope with their debilitating diseases. “They would make me proud to be a human being,” she writes, and adds how her patients’ words also give her the strength to manage her own illness, Crohn’s disease: “In time, the truth in them began to heal me.”
“Everybody is a story,” she notes. “When I was a child, people sat around kitchen tables and told their stories. We don’t do that so much anymore. Sitting around the table telling stories is not just a way of passing time. It is the way the wisdom gets passed along - the stuff that helps us to live a life worth remembering. Despite the awesome powers of technology, many of us do not live very well. We may need to listen to each other’s stories again.”
As I reread that paragraph, I remembered how Bess’ grandmother filled her kitchen not only with the warm scents of holiday baking, but with warm, comforting conversation of women sharing time and swapping stories. I thought of myself, my husband and my children – where we came from, what we’re learned and where we’d like to go. And then I recalled the recent holiday dinner I shared with my sisters’ families. Several months ago, my sister traveled to Halifax and found our grandparents’ immigration forms, detailing how they’d emigrated from Poland in the early 1900s. I was so moved to touch these old reproductions that were pieces of my history. My story.
And of course, that led to a round of, “Do you remember when grandma did...?” and “Do you remember Uncle So-and-so,” and tales of the long-lost cousin who was a jailbird (and may still be), and the niece who used to – ahem! – entertain gentleman callers, and the elderly couple who were so much in love, they walked hand-in-hand even into their 80s… and on and on we went, remembering and loving every minute if it.
So, remember that this holiday season, as you spend time with your family, friends, co-workers and loved ones: Everyone has a story. Be sure to repeat them. And, most importantly, make sure your children hear them. Because one day, you will be part of the story they repeat to their children.
And may I also wish you a Happy Holiday, and a wonderful New Year!